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Moving On: Why You Don’t Need an Apology to Heal After Being Ghosted

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Moving On: Why You Don’t Need an Apology to Heal After Being Ghosted


Ghosting has become a common phenomenon in today’s dating world. It occurs when someone abruptly cuts off all communication with another person without any explanation or warning. This can happen with friends, in romance, families, business, or any other walk of life. Being ghosted can be emotionally devastating, and can leave the person on the receiving end feeling confused, hurt, and rejected. One of the most challenging aspects of being ghosted is the lack of closure it brings. Many people feel that they need an apology from the person who ghosted them in order to heal and move on. But do you really need an apology to heal after being ghosted?

Understanding Ghosting

Ghosting is commonly used as a way for someone to avoid confrontation or uncomfortable conversations. It often leaves the other person wondering what went wrong and questioning their self-worth. The lack of closure can lead to feelings of rejection, abandonment, and self-doubt.

In today’s digital age, it has become easier than ever for people to disappear without a trace. With just a few clicks, someone can delete your number, unfriend you on social media, and vanish from your life completely.

Why You Don’t Need an Apology

  1. Healing Comes from Within: While receiving an apology from the person who ghosted you may provide some temporary relief or validation, true peace comes from within yourself. You have the power to heal and move on without needing external validation. Harsh Truth: The ghost who hurt you is not your healer.

Healing affirmation: “I can grow around my grief, one day at a time.”

  1. Acceptance is Key: Accepting that you may never get closure or an apology from the person who ghosted you is crucial for your healing process. By letting go of the need for external validation, you can focus on your own emotional well-being.

Healing affirmation: “I don’t like the fact that I was ghosted, but I recognize that this   is my reality and I will do everything I can to feel better.”

  1. Self-Love and Self-Worth: Instead of seeking validation from others, focus on loving yourself and recognizing your own self-worth independent of anyone else’s actions or opinions.

Healing affirmation: “No matter what happened to me, I am whole, complete and worthy.”

  1. Learning Experience: Being ghosted can be a learning experience that helps you grow stronger and more resilient as a person. If you feel ready, you can choose to use this opportunity to reflect on what you want in future relationships and how you deserve to be treated.

Healing affirmation: “I am dedicated to choosing people who choose me. I will not accept non-reciprocal relationships or breadcrumbs.”

  1. Moving Forward: By releasing expectations of apologies or closure from others, you free yourself from unnecessary emotional baggage that may hold you back in future relationships.

Healing affirmation: “I can be ghosted AND form healthy and fulfilling relationships in the future. There are wonderful people who can’t wait to meet me.”


1. Can I confront the person who ghosted me?

  • It’s a personal choice. Confrontation may not always lead to closure as some people may not be willing to provide explanations. Here’s a free guide on how to respectfully interact with the person who’s ghosting you.

2. How long does it take to heal after being ghosted?

  • Healing is a personal journey that varies for each individual; give yourself time and space to process your emotions, and lean on your support network.

3. Should I reach out for closure?

  • While reaching out may provide some answers, be prepared for potential disappointment if they do not respond. Here’s a free guide on how to interact with somebody who’s ghosting you.

4. Is it normal to feel hurt after being ghosted?

  • Being ghosted is one of the hardest things we can go through in terms of relationships. It is completely normal to feel hurt; allow yourself time to grieve the loss.  

5. Can I trust again after being ghosted?

  • Trust must be built over time with new individuals; don’t let one negative experience taint your future relationships.


While receiving an apology after being ghosted may seem like the key to healing old wounds – true emotional recovery comes internally by accepting oneself regardless if one receives acknowledgment externally or not. Even though it may feel impossible, please remember that you can heal after being ghosted:

  • Even if you don’t receive an apology from your ghost

  • Even if you never see your ghost again

  • Even if you never speak to your ghost again

If you wait for your ghost to apologize or explain why they vanished, you could wait forever. You’re not in control of their journey; you’re only responsible for yourself. You owe it to yourself to heal, one day at a time. 

Aaand if you’re looking for ways to feel better after being ghosted, be sure to check out the “Take Your Power Back Workshop,” coaching, and the free and private Coping With Ghosting Facebook Group

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Here at Coping with Ghosting, we understand the complexities of navigating modern relationships. We offer a supportive community, resources, and tools to help you heal from emotional hurt and build strong, trusting connections. Visit today to explore our blog posts, podcasts, and workshops designed to empower you to navigate the intricacies of relationships with confidence and clarity.


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